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COUNTER CULTURE | Week 2 | Sermon · Rewind

Rock Point Church

44 min

Pastor Daniel Goulding · Sep 17, 2024 · 4 min read · 44 min listen

The big idea

Quoting the message: Forgiveness isn't easy, but it is freeing, end quote. — and the only way to forgive without limit is to remember how much you've already been forgiven.

In this message

The big idea
Point 1 of 7Peter's question exposes our instinct to put a limit on forgiveness
Point 2 of 7Jesus commands forgiveness for the repentant, and even the disciples admit they can't do it on their own

Point 3 of 7Forgiveness is not forgetting, not fair, and not a feeling
Point 4 of 7The parable of the unforgiving servant reveals the true size of our debt before God
Point 5 of 7The master pays the debt himself, which is the picture of the cross
Point 6 of 7The forgiven servant refuses to forgive a much smaller debt, and it costs him everything
Point 7 of 7Unforgiveness is a self-built prison, and only we hold the key
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Scripture in this message

Matthew 18:21
Luke 17
Matthew 18
Matthew 18:23
Revelation 20
Matthew 18:26

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Pastor Daniel Goulding · Sep 17, 2024 · 44 min watch · 2 min read

COUNTER CULTURE | Week 2 | Sermon

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Big Idea
Key points
Application

Scripture in this message

Matthew 18:21
Luke 17
Matthew 18
Matthew 18:23
Revelation 20
Matthew 18:26

Big Idea Key points Application

Big Idea

Quoting the message: Forgiveness isn't easy, but it is freeing, end quote. — and the only way to forgive without limit is to remember how much you've already been forgiven.

Jesus calls His followers to forgive not a set number of times but without limit, because forgiveness is the path to real freedom. It won't feel fair or come naturally, but when we remember the crushing debt God has already forgiven us, we find the faith to release what others owe us, and it is us, not them, who walks free.

Key points

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1Peter's question exposes our instinct to put a limit on forgiveness
Peter asks Jesus if forgiving someone seven times is enough, having already doubled the rabbinic standard of three times. Pastor Daniel explains that Jesus answers with what sounds like a math problem but is really a correction: the question isn't how much forgiveness we owe, but how much freedom we want to experience.
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2Jesus commands forgiveness for the repentant, and even the disciples admit they can't do it on their own
In the parallel account in Luke, Jesus says a believer who repents must be forgiven, even seven times a day, and the apostles respond by asking Jesus to increase their faith. Pastor Daniel notes that this response is honest and universal: in our own power, we don't want to forgive, and forgiveness will take faith that isn't natural to us.
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3Forgiveness is not forgetting, not fair, and not a feeling
Pastor Daniel lays three ground rules before the parable: forgiving someone doesn't mean pretending it didn't happen or staying in an abusive or toxic situation; it isn't fair, since the offender hasn't earned it, just as it wasn't fair that God forgave us; and it isn't a feeling we wait to arrive, but a decision we make by faith that our feelings eventually catch up to.
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4The parable of the unforgiving servant reveals the true size of our debt before God
Jesus tells of a servant who owes his master millions (in today's terms, billions of dollars) and cannot pay. Pastor Daniel explains the twist: the master is God and the debtor is us, since Revelation describes God keeping a ledger of every sin in thought, word, and deed, a debt we could never repay on our own.
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5The master pays the debt himself, which is the picture of the cross
Rather than erasing the debt or leaving it unpaid, the master reaches into his own account to settle it, which Pastor Daniel connects to Jesus becoming human, living the life we couldn't live, and taking on the wrath we deserved so our debt could be fully paid, not just ignored.
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6The forgiven servant refuses to forgive a much smaller debt, and it costs him everything
The servant who was forgiven billions grabs a fellow servant by the throat over a few thousand dollars, and the king hands him over for it. Pastor Daniel says this shows we must learn to forgive not according to what people deserve, but according to what we've already received from God.
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7Unforgiveness is a self-built prison, and only we hold the key
Pastor Daniel explains that holding onto unforgiveness doesn't punish the other person, it tortures the one holding the grudge, rebuilding the very prison Jesus already released us from. He distinguishes forgiveness from reconciliation, noting forgiveness requires nothing of the other person and is something we do to free ourselves, not them.

Application

Pastor Daniel asks the church to plant a flag in the ground and choose, today, to release the person or situation they've been holding onto.

Name what you're holding onto
Pastor Daniel asks each person to identify the specific situation, person, or issue they've been refusing to let go of, whether it's betrayal, a broken family relationship, or a wound from a friend or coworker.
Choose to forgive by faith, not feeling
Since feelings never catch up first, make the decision to forgive as an act of faith even when you don't feel like it, trusting that your emotions will follow the choice over time.
Set boundaries without withholding forgiveness
Forgiving someone doesn't mean forgetting what happened or staying in an abusive or toxic relationship; redefine friendships and reset boundaries as needed while still releasing the debt.
Fix your gaze on what you've been forgiven, not what others deserve
Remember the size of the debt Jesus paid for you on the cross so you can extend forgiveness according to what you've received rather than what the offender has earned.
Raise your hand and release it to God
In the closing prayer, Pastor Daniel invites people to physically signal, hand raised, a decision to release the person or situation to God, asking Him to fill the void with love, grace, and mercy.

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“Matthew chapter 18, the story begins in verse 21. It says, then Peter came to him, being Jesus, and asked, Lord, how often should I forgive somebody who sins against me”
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“Look at this exact same story told in the gospel of Luke because we get a little bit of the disciples response that we don't see in Matthew. It says in Luke 17, same story, it says, one day Jesus said to his disciples”
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“Go back with me to Matthew chapter 18, reading in verse 23, Jesus again answering the question to Peter, how much do we have to forgive”
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“Go back with me to Matthew chapter 18, reading in verse 23, Jesus again answering the question to Peter, how much do we have to forgive? He says, therefore, the kingdom of heaven can be compared to a king”
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“the Bible is clear. Revelation 20 says that God is actually keeping a ledger of all of our sins. He actually has a list of every time we've made a mistake”
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“Look at the very next line of this story. Okay, this guy has a $6,000,000,000 debt, verse 26, he makes the fatal flaw that we will all make, but the man fell down before his master and begged him”
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“See, this is what Colossians says that Jesus did for you and I. Colossians chapter two says that you and I were dead because of our sin, and because our sinful nature was not yet cut away, but then God made you alive with Christ”
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“He says in verse 28, but when that man, that man who was forgiven $7,000,000,000, he left the king, he went to a fellow servant who owed him a few thousand dollars and he grabbed him by the throat”
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“and that Ezekiel 36 moment happens, where we truly are born again, the heart of stone that we used to have has been removed and we've had a heart transplant with a heart of flesh”
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“Look at how Jesus closes this whole parable down. He says in verse 34, then the angry king sent this man to prison to be tortured until he had paid his entire debt”

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7-day devotional

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Day 1

Peter's question sounds reasonable on the surface: 'How many times should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?' He probably expected a gold star. Seven was already generous by the standards of his day. But Jesus answers with a number so large it stops being a number — seventy times seven. He isn't giving Peter a new quota to track. He is dismantling the idea that forgiveness has a logical endpoint at all. Pastor Daniel pointed out that the real question underneath Peter's question is this: how much freedom do you actually want? When we put a ceiling on forgiveness, we are really putting a ceiling on our own peace. We become the accountant of every wrong done to us, and that ledger is exhausting to maintain. Jesus isn't asking us to pretend the hurt didn't happen. He's inviting us to stop letting the hurt set the terms of our lives. That reframe is worth sitting with today — not as a guilt trip, but as a genuine question: What would it feel like to not be keeping score? The invitation isn't to be a doormat; it's to be free. And freedom, Jesus suggests, is available in far greater supply than we tend to imagine.

For reflection

Where in your life have you quietly set a limit on how much you're willing to forgive — and what has maintaining that limit cost you?

Pray

Pray for honest awareness of any hidden scorecards you may be keeping, and for the courage to bring them to Jesus.

Day 2

The king in Jesus' parable sits down with a servant who owes him ten thousand bags of gold — a debt so astronomically large that Jesus' original audience would have recognized it as essentially unpayable. This wasn't a bad month; this was a lifetime of lifetimes of debt. And yet the king, moved with compassion, cancels it entirely. Not a payment plan. Not a reduced balance. Gone. Pastor Daniel made the point that this is the picture of every person's standing before God before grace enters the story. The spiritual weight we carried — every failure, every hidden thing, every way we've fallen short of who God made us to be — was a debt we had absolutely no means to repay. And Jesus, through His death on the cross, absorbed it all. The parable doesn't begin with our obligation to forgive others; it begins with the staggering, unearned gift that has already been extended to us. That sequence matters. Before the sermon ever gets to what you owe someone else, it plants you first in the position of the servant whose impossible debt was wiped clean. That is your starting point — not your failures, but His forgiveness.

For reflection

How often do you think about the size of the debt that has already been canceled on your behalf? What happens inside you when you sit with that?

Pray

Pray for a fresh, unhurried sense of the grace that has already been extended to you — that it would feel less like a doctrine and more like a reality.

Day 3

Paul's language in Colossians is striking: God 'canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross.' In the ancient world, a record of debt was a legal document — a written list of what you owed. Paul says God took that document and drove a nail through it. It is not filed away somewhere. It is not pending review. It is finished. Pastor Daniel pointed to this passage to show that the forgiveness available to us isn't a feeling or a vague spiritual gesture — it is a completed act with real legal weight in the economy of heaven. This is why forgiveness toward others can be a decision rather than a feeling. We are not conjuring grace out of thin air when we choose to forgive someone. We are reaching back into something that has already been done for us and extending it forward. You don't have to feel generous to forgive. You have to remember what has already been given. The stake in the ground Pastor Daniel described — that moment of choosing to release someone even when the feelings aren't there yet — is an act of trust that says: what God did for me is real, and I am going to live as if it is.

For reflection

What would change about how you approach a specific hurt if you started from the reality that your own debt has already been fully canceled?

Pray

Pray for the truth of Colossians 2:13-14 to move from something you know in your head to something you feel in your chest.

Day 4

The servant who was just forgiven an unpayable fortune walks out and immediately finds a fellow servant who owes him a small but real sum — and has him thrown into prison. The contrast Jesus draws is jarring. The same man who moments ago was weeping with relief at his canceled debt now cannot extend even a fraction of that same mercy. Pastor Daniel didn't use this passage to lecture; he used it to show us a mirror. It is easy to read the unforgiving servant and feel indignant, until we recognize how quickly we can move from receiving grace to demanding our rights. The sermon's honest observation is that we do this too — not because we are uniquely hard-hearted, but because we forget. We forget the size of what was done for us, and so the size of what was done to us begins to feel enormous by comparison. The antidote isn't trying harder to be merciful. It's remembering more clearly how much mercy you have already received. When the weight of your own forgiven debt stays fresh, it has a way of softening the grip you keep on what others owe you. Not erasing it — but loosening it, enough to begin.

For reflection

Is there a situation where you find yourself demanding repayment of a debt — emotionally, relationally, or otherwise — that you may be holding more tightly than you realized?

Pray

Pray for a soft heart toward a specific person today — not to excuse what they did, but to loosen the grip just a little.

Day 5

Jesus addresses forgiveness again in Luke, and here He connects it directly to rebuke, repentance, and repetition: if someone sins against you and repents, forgive them — and if they do it seven times in a day, forgive them seven times. Two things are worth holding together from this passage alongside what Pastor Daniel preached. First, Jesus does not say that forgiveness means absorbing harm without a word — He says to rebuke the person who wrongs you. Forgiveness and honest confrontation are not opposites. Second, the repetition here is remarkable. Jesus anticipates that real life involves people who hurt us more than once, sometimes in the same way, sometimes the same day. This isn't idealism. It's a frank acknowledgment that forgiveness is not a one-time event for most of us — it is a practice. Pastor Daniel made the point that forgiveness is a decision, and this passage suggests it may be a decision we make more than once about the same wound. That is not weakness. That is faithfulness. Each time you return to that decision, you are not proving that last time didn't count. You are simply continuing to walk toward freedom rather than back toward the prison.

For reflection

Is there a hurt you thought you had forgiven, but find yourself needing to forgive again? What does it mean to you that Jesus anticipated exactly this?

Pray

Pray for the stamina to keep choosing forgiveness even when it doesn't feel resolved, and for trust that the process itself is meaningful.

Day 6

The end of the parable is sobering. The king, hearing what his forgiven servant has done, hands him over to the torturers until the debt is repaid. Jesus closes with this: 'That's what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart.' Pastor Daniel was careful and honest here. He did not offer a theological formula about what this means for salvation. What he did say is this: unforgiveness is a self-chosen prison of torment. You don't have to wait for anyone to lock the door — choosing to hold onto bitterness is choosing the cell. The 'torturers' are not just a future consequence; they are present tense. Resentment, replaying the offense, fantasizing about the other person finally understanding what they did — these are forms of torment we volunteer for every time we refuse to release the debt. The freedom Jesus describes is not a reward for being spiritually mature enough to forgive. It is simply what becomes available when the fist opens. And if you are reading this and feel like you cannot open your fist — that is honest. Bring that honesty to Jesus. He can work with it.

For reflection

In what ways have you experienced unforgiveness as its own kind of suffering? What would it mean to associate releasing that person with gaining your own freedom?

Pray

Pray for the grace to want freedom more than you want to be right — and for honesty about where those two things are in tension for you right now.

Day 7

Coming back to the whole passage at the end of a week is different than reading it for the first time. You have sat with Peter's question, the king's stunning mercy, the servant's tragic failure, and the cost of a closed fist. Pastor Daniel's invitation was specific and personal: identify the person, situation, or wound you have been carrying — maybe for years — and make a faith-driven decision today to release it. Not because it was fair. Not because you feel it yet. Not because it requires reconciliation. But because Jesus is trustworthy with the things that are too heavy for you, and because vengeance belongs to Him, not you. For some, the hardest person to forgive is yourself. That invitation stands too. The same grace that cancels an unpayable debt can reach the parts of your own story that you have never quite let go of. You don't plant the stake because the feelings are ready. You plant it because you believe His Word is true and you want to walk into the freedom He has already purchased. That stake is not the end of the work — it is the beginning of the walk. And the walk is worth it.

For reflection

What is one concrete act — a conversation, a written prayer, a decision made quietly before God — that would mark this week's reflection as more than just reading?

Pray

Pray for the courage to plant a specific stake today — naming the person or wound before God and choosing, by faith, to release it into His hands.

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Open

Think of a time you watched someone let go of a grudge — maybe in a movie, a story, or real life. This message is about what Jesus says is actually happening in that moment, and why it matters more than we might expect.

Discussion questions

1
In Matthew 18:21-22, Peter asks Jesus how many times he has to forgive — up to seven times — and Jesus answers with 'seventy times seven.' What do you think Jesus is getting at with that answer? What does it tell us about how He frames the whole question of forgiveness?
2
In the parable, the king forgives a servant an enormous, unpayable debt — and then that same servant refuses to forgive a much smaller one. What does Jesus seem to want us to feel or understand as we hear that contrast in Matthew 18:23-27?
3
Pastor Daniel made a distinction between forgiving someone and pretending what happened was okay — he said forgiveness doesn't erase consequences or require reconciliation. How might that distinction change the way people think about what forgiveness is actually asking of them?
4
Colossians 2:13-14 describes God canceling 'the record of the charges against us' and nailing it to the cross. How does that image connect to what Pastor Daniel said about our own debt before God being the fuel for extending grace to others?
5
Pastor Daniel said that unforgiveness functions as a self-imposed prison — and that releasing someone is less about benefiting the offender and more about our own freedom. What do you think makes that hard for people to believe or act on?
6
Pastor Daniel described forgiveness as a faith-driven decision, not a feeling — and said our feelings tend to follow our actions over time. How might that reframe the way we as a group talk about or support one another through the process of forgiving someone who has caused real harm?

Pray together

Gratitude for the debt that has already been canceled — and courage to extend that same grace to others

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