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Distorted | Week 7 | Message · Rewind

Rock Point Church

51 min

Pastor Bill Bush · Jul 22, 2025 · 5 min read · 51 min listen

The big idea

We're called to raise God seekers, not just good doers — because a godly home shapes the environment, but it can't guarantee godly kids.

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The big idea
Point 1 of 7The 'godly home equals godly kids' idea is a distortion of a proverb, not a promise of Scripture
Point 2 of 7Parents are called to faithfulness, not perfection, because there's no formula that guarantees success

Point 3 of 7The parable of the prodigal son actually has two prodigal sons, and the one who stayed home can be just as far from God
Point 4 of 7It's never too late, even if you didn't raise your kids in a godly home
Point 5 of 7The goal is godliness, not just 'goodliness' — behavior flowing from a transformed heart, not rule-keeping
Point 6 of 7Practical, age-specific steps help point kids to Jesus rather than just modify behavior
Point 7 of 7Carrie's story of her daughter Sarai shows God working even when a parent sees no visible spiritual movement
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Scripture in this message

Proverbs 22:6
Proverbs 22
Luke 15
Isaiah 1:12-13
1 Samuel 13:14
1 Timothy 4:12

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Pastor Bill Bush · Jul 22, 2025 · 51 min watch · 3 min read

Distorted | Week 7 | Message

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Big Idea
Key points
Application

Scripture in this message

Proverbs 22:6
Proverbs 22
Luke 15
Isaiah 1:12-13
1 Samuel 13:14
1 Timothy 4:12

Big Idea Key points Application

Big Idea

We're called to raise God seekers, not just good doers — because a godly home shapes the environment, but it can't guarantee godly kids.

Parents can't force their kids' hearts, no matter how godly the home — Proverbs 22:6 is a principle for wise living, not a guaranteed promise. God calls parents to faithfulness, not perfection, trusting that He loves their children even more than they do, and aiming to raise disciples who know Jesus personally rather than kids who just behave well.

Key points

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1The 'godly home equals godly kids' idea is a distortion of a proverb, not a promise of Scripture
Pastor Bill explains that Proverbs 22:6 says to direct children on the right path so they won't leave it, but proverbs are principles for wise living, not guarantees. Treating it as a promise leads either to guilt when kids walk away or to pride and judgmentalism when they don't.
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2Parents are called to faithfulness, not perfection, because there's no formula that guarantees success
He points out that even God, the perfect Father, had children — Adam and Eve — who walked away in the perfect environment of Eden. This is meant to relieve guilt: raising kids in a godly home matters, but it can't force a heart to follow God.
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3The parable of the prodigal son actually has two prodigal sons, and the one who stayed home can be just as far from God
Working through Luke 15, he shows the older brother represents Israel — obedient, present, doing all the right things, yet full of pride and distant from the father's heart, while the younger son who ran away comes back close to the father. Kids who behave and never leave home can still be 'good doers' rather than God seekers.
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4It's never too late, even if you didn't raise your kids in a godly home
Carrie answers this directly: God meets people where they are, and He loves their kids more than they do. The counsel isn't to try to control adult children retroactively but to let them see a changed life.
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5The goal is godliness, not just 'goodliness' — behavior flowing from a transformed heart, not rule-keeping
Carrie walks through Isaiah 1, where God calls Israel's technically-correct offerings disgusting because their hearts were far from Him. Pastor Bill frames this as living from God's love rather than for it, and shares his own story of screaming at his 13-year-old son in the church parking lot as an example of parenting becoming about control and self-image rather than the child's heart.
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6Practical, age-specific steps help point kids to Jesus rather than just modify behavior
He suggests telling young children who God is (not just what to do), affirming teenagers' identity in Christ rather than just their behavior, and with adult children releasing control while staying present and humble, trusting God loves them even more than the parent does.
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7Carrie's story of her daughter Sarai shows God working even when a parent sees no visible spiritual movement
Carrie recounts Sarai's dark season before leaving for school in London, a surprising surrender of faith there, then a confusing angry year back home with no apparent relationship with God — until a mission trip Carrie felt prompted to invite her on became the turning point, and Sarai is now on staff and pursuing a master's degree in Christian thought and practice.

Application

Pastor Bill and Carrie frame the charge as choosing to be a God seeker yourself, since you can't force that in your kids.

Stop treating parenting as a guaranteed formula
Let go of the pride or guilt that comes from thinking a godly home guarantees godly kids; trust God with the outcome instead of trying to control it.
Tell young kids who God is, not just what to do
Talk naturally about who God actually is at their level, rather than only using God as a rule or a threat to shape behavior.
Affirm teens' identity in Christ, not just their behavior
When teens succeed or do well, point to who they are in Christ rather than simply praising the achievement, since the world offers competing identities.
Release control with adult children, but stay present
Stop nagging or arguing with grown children; instead love them the way Jesus loves you, stay humble, and trust God's love for them is greater than your own.
Find people to pray specifically over your kids
Build or lean on a small team who will pray intentionally for your children, as Carrie describes doing for twenty years, even if you're not a parent yourself.
Normalize apologizing to your kids
When you handle something the wrong way, let your kids see you own it and say sorry, showing both that you can be right about what they should do and wrong about how you handled it.

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“And it really is a distortion of a proverb. Proverbs twenty two six. And it says, direct your children onto the right path and when they are older, they will not leave it”
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“is what Proverbs 22 and the rest of scripture when it talks about us as parents is is the big idea is simply this. We need to raise God seekers, not just good doers”
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“It's called the parable of the prodigal son. It's in Luke 15. Right? I gotta confirm with the master and the degrees”
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“I was in the book of Isaiah and I was just reading, I thought it was it was so perfect. It was in chapter one in twelve and thirteen. And and in this, God is, he's rebuking the Israelites”
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“In fact, God talks about David being a man after God's own heart. He calls him a man after his own heart. But it also talks about that their children, weren't weren't weren't good”
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“Paul says to Timothy when he was a young man, don't let people look down upon them because of your youth. Set the example. Honor your mother and father. Show them the love of Christ”

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Day 1

There is a version of Proverbs 22:6 that has quietly broken a lot of hearts. Parents who did everything 'right' have watched children walk away from faith, and wondered what they did wrong. Meanwhile, the verse gets quoted like a contract — do your part, get the guaranteed result. But Pastor Bill was clear: proverbs are principles of wisdom, not binding promises. They describe what is generally true, not what is always true. A proverb about a soft answer turning away wrath does not mean every gentle word lands well. The same is true here. Training a child in the way they should go is still exactly the right thing to do — the wisdom is real. But wisdom is not a vending machine. God is not bound by our parenting techniques, and our children are not products we manufacture. If you have carried guilt over a child who has wandered, this is worth sitting with today. Your faithfulness matters deeply. It is simply not the only variable in play. There is a God who loves your child with a love that outpaces anything you could produce — and He has not stopped working. The goal of this week is not to lower the bar on faithful parenting. It is to put the weight of the outcome back where it belongs: in His hands.

For reflection

Is there a place where you have been treating Proverbs 22:6 as a contract rather than a principle — and what has that cost you emotionally or spiritually?

Pray

Pray for the courage to release the weight of outcomes you were never meant to carry alone.

Day 2

Most people read the parable of the prodigal son and assume the story is about the son who left. Pastor Bill pointed out something that cuts deeper: both sons were prodigals. The younger son ran toward a far country. The older son stayed home, kept every rule, and was furious when grace showed up for his brother. He had never truly known his father's heart — he had only known his father's house. That distinction matters enormously for how we think about Christian parenting. A child can grow up inside a godly home, attend every service, say the right things, and still be a stranger to the God behind it all. Behavior does not equal belonging. The older son's complaint — 'I have been here all along and you never threw me a party' — reveals a heart that was performing, not loving. He had reduced his relationship with his father to a ledger. The good news is that the father in this parable runs toward both sons. He does not wait for perfect repentance or perfect behavior. He watches, he sees, he runs. That is who God is. And that reality is worth more than any parenting strategy — it is the thing worth pointing our children, and ourselves, toward.

For reflection

Which son do you identify with more right now — the one who ran, or the one who stayed and kept score? What does that reveal about where your heart is with God?

Pray

Pray for an honest look at whether you are relating to God from love or from a sense of obligation and keeping score.

Day 3

Isaiah 1 is jarring, and intentionally so. God looks at His people's worship — the offerings, the festivals, the religious activity — and says He cannot stand it. Not because the rituals were wrong in themselves, but because the hearts behind them were hollow. The people were showing up, going through the motions, and calling it devotion. Pastor Bill used this passage to draw a straight line to a danger in Christian parenting: raising children who are good at religious behavior but have never actually encountered the God behind it. He called it 'goodliness' rather than godliness — and the difference is everything. Goodliness is performing for approval. Godliness is being genuinely transformed by love. The Isaiah passage is not a reason to abandon spiritual practices or skip church. It is a warning about what those practices are supposed to be doing. They are meant to be the soil in which a real relationship with God grows — not the relationship itself. For parents, the question becomes: am I teaching my children to love God, or to manage God? For every person: am I worshiping, or am I performing? God is not impressed by the volume of religious activity. He is after the heart.

For reflection

Where in your own spiritual life might you be going through the motions — and what would it look like to bring your actual heart to God instead?

Pray

Pray for the honesty to name the places where your faith has become performance, and for a fresh desire to seek God rather than merely satisfy religious expectations.

Day 4

Pastor Bill referenced David as 'a man after God's own heart' — a description that is both inspiring and, if you know David's story, genuinely surprising. David was an adulterer, a murderer, a failed father in multiple painful ways. He was not a man after God's own heart because his behavior was consistently excellent. He was that man because he kept running back to God. He repented hard. He grieved his sin. He wrote psalms soaked in honest anguish and honest longing. His heart's direction was toward God, even when his feet were walking in the wrong direction. This matters enormously for the sermon's core idea. The goal of Christian parenting — and Christian living — is not children or people who never stumble. It is people who know where to go when they do. A child who has watched a parent own a mistake, apologize genuinely, and turn back to God has been handed something more valuable than a child who only ever saw a parent appear to have it together. Modeling the return is part of the path. If you are carrying shame today over something you have done or failed to do, David's story holds out something real: God is not looking for a spotless record. He is looking for a heart that keeps turning toward Him.

For reflection

Is there a failure — as a parent, a child, or simply a person — that you have had trouble bringing back to God? What would it mean to be, like David, someone whose heart keeps turning toward Him anyway?

Pray

Pray for the freedom to stop hiding your failures from God and from the people closest to you, and for the courage to model genuine repentance.

Day 5

Pastor Bill mentioned Paul's words to Timothy about not letting anyone look down on him because of his youth. It is a small reference in the sermon, but it points toward something the application section made explicit: identity is everything, especially for teenagers. The culture around adolescents is relentlessly loud about who they are and what they are worth — and most of what it says is tied to performance, appearance, or belonging to the right group. Paul's charge to Timothy assumes that Timothy knows who he is regardless of what others think. That kind of groundedness does not come from self-esteem exercises. It comes from knowing you are known and loved by the God who made you. For parents of teenagers, Pastor Bill's word was clear: hammer the truth that their identity comes from the God who made and loves them. Not their grades, not their sport, not their social standing. If you are not a parent of a teenager, this is still for you — because many adults are still carrying adolescent wounds about not being enough. The good news is the same at every age: you are not defined by your worst moment, your biggest failure, or anyone's assessment of your worth. You are defined by the One who made you.

For reflection

Where are you still tempted to find your identity in performance or in others' approval rather than in who God says you are?

Pray

Pray for a specific young person in your life — that they would know their identity is rooted in being loved by God, not in what they achieve or how they appear.

Day 6

Before the story of the two sons, Luke 15 opens with two shorter parables — a lost sheep and a lost coin. In both, the one who searches does not wait for the lost thing to find its own way home. The shepherd leaves the 99 and goes looking. The woman lights a lamp and sweeps every corner of the house. These parables set the tone for the prodigal son story and for the whole chapter's picture of who God is: a God who actively seeks what is lost. Pastor Bill's word to parents of adult children was shaped by this same reality. You cannot argue or nag anyone into the kingdom. Attempting to control an adult child's spiritual life usually pushes them further away, not closer. But releasing control is not the same as walking away. Staying lovingly present — available, not overbearing — is itself a form of witness. Your changed life, your faithfulness, your willingness to love without strings attached: these things speak. They are not magic formulas, but they create the conditions in which the searching God can do His work. If you are in that season of release, today's invitation is simply this: trust that the same God who came looking for you has not stopped looking for the people you love.

For reflection

Is there someone you love whom you have been trying to control into faith rather than love into nearness? What would it look like to stay present without gripping?

Pray

Pray for the grace to release control of someone you love into God's hands, and for the patience to stay present while He works.

Day 7

Looking back across the week, the thread running through every day is this: God is a seeker. He seeks the lost sheep, the lost coin, the younger son who ran, and — gently, persistently — the older son standing outside the party. The sermon's deepest challenge was not about parenting techniques. It was about the condition of our own hearts. You cannot point a child, a friend, or anyone else toward a path you are not walking yourself. The most important thing any person can do for the next generation is to be a genuine God seeker — someone who lives from God's love rather than performing for it, who returns when they wander, who talks naturally about who God is rather than just what He demands. That kind of life is contagious in the best way. It is not perfect parenting. It is not a guaranteed outcome. It is faithfulness — showing up, staying honest, keeping your heart oriented toward God, and trusting that He loves the people in your life even more than you do. Wherever you are this week — parent of young children, parent of adult children, someone without kids who prays faithfully over someone else's — the invitation is the same: seek God yourself, and trust Him with everyone else.

For reflection

As you look at this past week, where did you most sense God inviting you to seek Him more genuinely — and what is one small, concrete step you could take in that direction?

Pray

Pray for a renewed desire to seek God for yourself — not as a strategy for others, but because He is worth knowing — and for the trust to leave the outcomes of the people you love in His hands.

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Pastor Bill and Carrie spent this message wrestling with one of the most hopeful — and sometimes heaviest — questions in family life: what are we actually trying to raise our kids to be?

Discussion questions

1
Pastor Bill pointed out that Proverbs 22:6 is a principle of wisdom, not a binding promise. What difference does it make — practically or emotionally — to read a proverb as a general principle rather than a guaranteed outcome?
2
In Luke 15, Jesus tells about two sons — one who ran away and one who stayed home — and Pastor Bill suggested both were equally far from the father's heart. What do you notice about the older son's posture toward his father, and what might that reveal about the difference between 'goodliness' and godliness?
3
In Isaiah 1:12-13, God responds to the people's offerings with something closer to disgust than gratitude. What seems to be missing from their worship, and how does that connect to what Pastor Bill and Carrie described as the real goal of Christian parenting?
4
Pastor Bill said you cannot point children toward a path you are not walking yourself. What does it look like, in everyday life, for an adult to be a genuine God seeker rather than simply a good doer — and how might that land differently on the people watching us?
5
Pastor Bill and Carrie described different approaches for different seasons — talking naturally about who God is with young children, rooting teenagers in their identity in Christ, and releasing control while staying lovingly present with adult children. What threads do you see running through all three of those, regardless of the age or stage involved?
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Pastor Bill and Carrie noted that not everyone in the room is a parent, but everyone can pray specifically and persistently over a child in their life. What might it look like for a community — not just individual families — to take shared responsibility for raising the next generation of God seekers?

Pray together

Faithfulness over perfection — that God would shape us into genuine God seekers, and that He would work in the lives of the children and young people we love

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