Key points
1We instinctively answer 'who am I?' with things that only describe us, not define us.
Pastor Daniel walks through his own childhood nicknames — the crybaby mama's boy, 'Jackson' after Michael Jackson, and 'Sid' after the Toy Story character — to show how a moment or trait can wrongly become someone's whole identity for a season of life.
A story from life
Daniel Goulding recalls preschool routine with his mother and the distressing morning he missed his goodbye kiss
A story from life
Daniel Goulding describes being nicknamed 'Jackson' in elementary school for his Michael Jackson fandom
A story from life
Daniel Goulding recounts his awkward teenage growth spurt and being nicknamed 'Sid' after the Toy Story character
2Personality tools like the Enneagram can describe our wiring, but they were never meant to define us.
He names the church's two extreme reactions to the Enneagram — rejecting it as demonic or over-adopting it as an identity label — and argues it's a helpful tool for communication in marriage, family, and staff relationships, but dangerous when used to justify sin or replace God's definition of who we are.
You and I have to be really careful not to let what describes you define you
3Jacob's birth story shows him grasping for a promise that was already his, through deception rather than trust.
He reads Genesis 25, where God tells Rebekah the younger son will be served by the older — a reversal of custom — yet Jacob is born grabbing Esau's heel, already trying to get ahead by his own effort rather than waiting on God's timing.
4Every person carries the Imago Dei, but sin marred that image, so identity must be recovered, not discovered.
Pastor Daniel teaches that we're each born with purpose stamped into us by God, tracing back to Genesis and the fall, where Satan tempted Adam and Eve to grasp for something (being like God) they already had. He notes identity is a theme running from Genesis to Revelation, precisely because Satan knows disrupting it derails everything else.
5A blessing pursued outside God's timing and order becomes a burden instead.
Pastor Daniel traces Jacob conning Esau out of his birthright for stew and deceiving Isaac for the blessing, then being deceived himself by Laban on his wedding night, and finally fleeing again after conning Laban — showing that what we grab for ourselves outside God's order leaves us alone and running, connecting it to John 10:10.
That thing that was supposed to be a blessing, it will become a massive burden
We always friends, we reap what we sow and what we reap will eventually catch up to us
6God meets Jacob in his aloneness and wrestles his false identity to the ground until he speaks the truth.
In Genesis 32, alone at the Jabbok River, Jacob wrestles a man all night, refuses to let go without a blessing, and is finally asked his name — forcing him to admit out loud for the first time in decades that he is Jacob, the deceiver, before God renames him Israel.
there's only one person that gets to actually declare the name that is spoken over us. And it's the one who created us
A story from life
Daniel Goulding shares his season of leaving Rock Point during COVID, working construction sales in San Diego, holding signs at a church plant, and recognizing his identity had been wrapped up in ministry
7Even good things — a career, a title, a role — can quietly become an identity that has to be surrendered.
Pastor Daniel tells his own story of leaving Rock Point for San Diego during COVID, taking a construction sales job, holding signs for a church plant, and sinking into depression when ministry and recognition were stripped away, realizing his identity had been wrapped up in being a pastor more than he admitted.
it doesn't matter what it is, there's all the chance that we could lose it
Application
Pastor Daniel's charge is to have an honest moment before God and admit what name you've really been living by.
Stop letting descriptions define you
Whether it's an old nickname, a mistake, or a personality test result, recognize that these only describe you and refuse to let them stand in for your God-given identity.
Submit your natural wiring to God
Even good personality traits and strengths must be surrendered to God's timing and order rather than used to justify sin or force outcomes on your own.
Admit your true name before God
Like Jacob at the Jabbok, have an honest moment where you name what you've believed your identity is tied up in — a job, a title, a paycheck, your kids — and say it out loud to God.
Let God rename you
Trust Him to work out the broken identity and give you the new name and purpose He always intended, resting in who you are in Christ rather than what you do or have.
Take it into your week
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